Advantages of Sex for a Happy Marriage

                                 

Is sex necessary in marriage? Is sex important in marriage? These age-old quandaries are still controversial. In my attempt to answer it, I will break it down into its fundamental parts, asking this:

                               "In what ways does sexual intimacy contribute to marriage?

While each person probably has a unique answer to this, I think of intimacy as both an accessory and a necessity to marriage.

What I mean by this can be described in a simple metaphor:  Would most people, who like cupcakes, prefer a cupcake with icing or without icing? Well, it’s obvious, isn’t it? And, while the icing is only one part of the cupcake, it is a very important part.  Some would even argue that the cupcake is not a cupcake without the icing. This is how important is sex in a marriage.

Having said that, there are all kinds of marriages, some with minimal or no sexual intimacy. This is not to say that a marriage is not a marriage without sex.  But the absence of sex, especially in the years of youth can cause frustration in one or both partners and a feeling of emptiness. Importance of sex in married life, in no way, can it be overemphasized, but a marriage can be sustained without sex.

Sex is important & necessary

                          

If you can buy this argument, you can most likely understand why sex is important in a marriage. Given that, not much is said about how important sex in a marriage.  All I know is that intimacy enhances long-term relationships. Sex does not have to happen with any specific measure of frequency or abundance necessarily; but the more it happens, the more it enhances a relationship, and the better you both feel. By this logic, it would stand to reason that a complete lack of physical intimacy would be detracting from the relationship – just as a lack of icing detracts from a cupcake.

If you’re not sure about this, I would suggest adding some sexual intimacy into your relationship (more than one go-round), create romance, and take stock of whether doing this enhances, detracts, or does nothing for you as a couple. We do know that a healthy sex life is one of the most commonly cited traits among happy couples when asked how they make it work.  These couples have managed to maintain intimacy for years, still enjoying their bond and maintaining the fondness they have for one another.

Another reason why sex is important in marriage is that it has been shown that intimate activity causes the release of powerful endorphins that flow through reward pathways in the brain, inducing euphoria and the feelings of love.

Couples with regular sexual activity also gain the added benefit of aerobic workout; which is the best type of workout for weight loss – not to mention a great investment in your health.

Body and mind are both affected by this powerful release. If you want to know more about this aspect of intimacy, reading a book by Olivia St. John, or picking up a copy of the Kama Sutra, or any other manual that uses the term “tantric” in its description.

Importance of sex in marriage

Importance of sex is not limited to that, sex has some anti-aging benefits associated with it. Having sex has releases anti-inflammatory molecules in our body, which aids the repair work in our bodies. Our bodies continuously experience damage and repair. Boosting the repair process can slow down the aging process and in turn, make us look youthful for longer.

Sex in marriage is important, and just as important is open communication. Communication that offers a compromise, discusses the desired frequency of sex, likes, dislikes, and preferences, are discussions that can improve things that otherwise would stay unchanged for years. Sex in married life is important, and if there are problems prevalent in your sex life, proper communication can help. Importance of sex in marriage cannot be marginalized, through communication, the roadblocks to healthy sex life can be overcome. 

A word to the wise

Finally, the question still prevails- is sex important in a marriage? Sex for a happy married life is important, if not necessary. If there are problems in your relationship, they may manifest in your sex life. Some couples’ marital issues start in the bedroom, even though they may have little to do with sex. Importance of sex in a marriage cannot be overemphasized. And having problems in sex life further increases problems in relationships. It is like a vicious cycle. Bear in mind that if there are sudden changes in intimacy, it may be a sign that it’s time to schedule a therapist. You and your partner may have un-processed, un-divulged issues to deal with. Resolving whatever it may be is of utmost importance for a happy married life.

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Many have been asking this particular Question What is female ejaculation?

Today i will give you a little insights what it means!

              Female ejaculation is when a female's urethra expels fluid during sex. It can happen when a female becomes sexually aroused, but there is not necessarily an association with having an orgasm.

Scientists do not fully understand female ejaculation, and there is limited research on how it works and its purpose. Female ejaculation is perfectly normal, although researchers remain divided on how many people experience it.

In this article, we look at the current thinking on the mechanisms, purpose, and frequency of female ejaculation.

What is it?

Female ejaculation refers to the expulsion of fluid from a female's urethra during orgasm or sexual arousal. The urethra is the duct that carries urine from the bladder to the outside of the body.

There are two different types of female ejaculate:

• Squirting fluid. This fluid is usually colorless and odorless, and it occurs in large quantities.
• Ejaculate fluid. This type more closely resembles male semen. It is typically thick and appears milky.

Analysis has shown that the fluid contains prostatic acid phosphatase (PSA). PSA is an enzyme present in male semen that helps sperm motility.

In addition, female ejaculate usually contains fructose, which is a form of sugar. Fructose is also generally present in male semen where it acts as an energy source for sperm.

Experts believe that the PSA and fructose present in the fluid come from the Skene's glands. Other names for these glands include the paraurethral glands, Garter's duct, and female prostate.

Skene's glands sit on the front, inside wall of the vagina near the G-spot. Researchers believe that stimulation causes these glands to produce PSA and fructose, which then move into the urethra.

Is it real?

For many years, scientists thought that females who ejaculated during sex were experiencing continence problems. Research has since disproved this idea and confirmed the existence of female ejaculation.

A 2014 study found that the fluid accumulates in the bladder during arousal and leaves through the urethra during ejaculation. Seven women who reported experiencing female ejaculation during sex took part in the trial.

First, the researchers used ultrasound exams to confirm that the participants' bladders were empty. The women then stimulated themselves until they ejaculated while the researchers continued to monitor them using ultrasounds.

The study found that all the women started with an empty bladder, which began to fill during arousal. The post-ejaculation scans revealed that the participants' bladders were empty again.

Is it normal and how common is it?

Female ejaculation is perfectly normal, yet people do not discuss it very often. According to the International Society for Sexual Medicine, different estimates suggest that between 10 and 50 percent of women ejaculate during sex.

Some experts believe that all women experience ejaculation, but that many do not notice. It is possible that they are not aware of it because the fluid can flow backward into the bladder rather than leaving the body.

In an older study that involved 233 women, 14 percent of participants reported that they ejaculated with all or most orgasms, while 54 percent said that they had experienced it at least once.

When the researchers compared urine samples from before and after orgasm, they found more PSA in the latter. They concluded that all females create ejaculate but do not always expel it. Instead, the ejaculate sometimes returns to the bladder, which then passes it during urination.

What is known is that the experience of female ejaculation, including the feeling, triggers, and amount of ejaculate, varies considerably from person to person.

Are there any health benefits?

Health benefits of sex include relieving stress.

There is no evidence that female ejaculation has any health benefits. However, research has found sex itself to offer several benefits.

During orgasm, the body releases pain-relieving hormones that can help with back and leg pain, headaches, and menstrual cramps.

Immediately after climaxing, the body releases hormones that promote restful sleep. These hormones include prolactin and oxytocin.

Other health benefits include:

• relieving stress
• boosting the immune system
• protecting against heart disease
• lowering blood pressure

Connection to the menstrual cycle

It is not clear whether or not there is a link between female ejaculation and the menstrual cycle.

Some women say that they are more likely to ejaculate after ovulating and before menstruating, while others do not see a connection. More research is necessary to confirm or refute this association. 

Connection to pregnancy

Some scientists believe that female ejaculate plays a role in pregnancy. They think this because the fluid contains PSA and fructose, which help sperm on their journey toward an unfertilized egg.

Others dispute this theory, however. They argue that ejaculate usually contains urine, which can kill sperm. They also say that it is not easy for the fluid to travel from the urethra to the vagina, where it would need to be to play a role in pregnancy.

Takeaway

Female ejaculation is perfectly normal, and research suggests that it may be common despite people rarely discussing it.

Scientists do not fully understand the biological purpose of female ejaculation or how it works.

The experience of females who have ejaculated during sex varies considerably.

Total votes for 2015 presidential election= 28.4m
Total votes for Big Brother Nigeria 2017 finale =26m

You employ all measures based on logistics to push your weight behind someone to win a meager N25m that cannot impact your life in anyway but you can't do the same to someone who will be in charge of trillions of Naira that can change your lives and those of your unborn generation for the better. .
So whenever you want complain that as youths, you have been leaders of tomorrow for too long, remember that it's because of these kind of youthful priorities you place,

When is tomorrow?    
When is the future?

It's time to hit the 2019pools with anger of voting out Old political individuals and Religious Bigots, care less on whom is affected... Youths Rise up,it's no sin if Our leaders not minding her position or office are between 30-55years of age..
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THE PREGNANT DEER -

In a forest, a pregnant deer is about to give birth. She finds a remote grass field near a strong-flowing river. This seems a safe place. Suddenly labour pains begin. At the same moment, dark clouds gather around above & lightning starts a forest fire.

She looks to her left & sees a hunter with his bow extended pointing at her.
To her right, she spots a hungry lion approaching her.

What can the pregnant deer do? She is in labour!
What will happen?
Will the deer survive?
Will she give birth to a fawn?
Will the fawn survive?
Or will everything be burnt by the forest fire?
Will she perish to the hunters' arrow?
Will she die a horrible death at the hands of the hungry lion approaching her?
She is constrained by the fire on the one side & the Flowing river on the other & boxed in by her natural predators.

What does she do?
She focuses on giving birth to a new life.
The sequence of events that follows are:
- Lightning strikes & blinds the hunter.
- He releases the arrow which zips past the deer & strikes the hungry lion.
- It starts to rain heavily, & the forest fire is slowly doused by the rain.
- The deer gives birth to a healthy fawn.
In our life too, there are moments of choice when we are confronted on all sides with negative thoughts and possibilities.

Some thoughts are so powerful that they overcome us & overwhelm us.
Maybe we can learn from the deer.

The priority of the deer, in that given moment, was simply to give birth to a baby.
The rest was not in her hands & any action or reaction that changed her focus would have likely resulted in death or disaster.

Ask yourself, Where is your focus?

Where is your faith and hope?

In the midst of any storm, do keep faith on creator always. He will never ever dissapoint you. NEVER.
Remember, He neither slumber nor sleep !! Strong person knows how to keep her life in order. Even with tears in her eyes, she still manages to say 'I'm Ok' with a smile. I send this to u because u are a strong person.

That was why God heard your prayers. God be with you.

Research says every tube has a little degree of opening; an opening So tiny that eyes can't see. Little wonder the tyres of cars packed for long deflate. Balloons left long with air deflate. Etc

In order words, condom is a tube, and therefore, is likely to have a tiny whole through which micro organisms can pass. Report says condom does not give 100 percent assurance of preventing micro diseases like HIV from transmission during sex.

However, study reveals that latex condoms are safer than Iambskin condoms. But there's no 100 percent guarantee.

I once read a story about a man who sued a condom manufacturing company for deceiving the world that condom gives 100 percent prevention of HIV during sex.

According the him, since he started sex, he hasn't done it without condom and he doesn't share any blood related sharp object with anybody. But unfortunately, he contracted HIV and he couldn't explain 'how' since the only blood related act he does is sex and always with condom.

I read seminar story again about a Lady who says she has a lot of sex with different men but she always use condom and yet she contracted HIV.

Another police man narrated same story. He only slept with one hit and run woman with condom but he contracted HIV.

I am not a doctor to explain this. Maybe a doctor in the house could help us. But here is what I learned: condom does not guarantee 100 protection from HIV.

Condom can prevent macro diseases, and sperms from penetration because they are of reasonable size, but as for HIV, hmm, that little demon is so damn tiny and stubborn that the size of the whole in condoms can comfortably allow a pass.

Therefore, trust not on man made object. If tyre can leak, balloon can leak then condom can also leak. Don't trust the tube.

If you do have sex with condom, please go for medical check. Know your health status.

Many prostitutes use condom yet HIV is rampant among them. Stay away from premarital and extramarital sex. Repent and give your life to God. Everything in this world is vanity. Jesus loves you.

Note: My goal is to help improve peoples lives and help them fulfill their destinies. I believe in my friends and in their dreams. Share this post. Save life.

The Fallen of Great Iroko- IGWE NDI-IGBO NA CHINA

 Ndi Igbo/Nigerians in China have been asking why,why,why as this great iroko fell this morning.

Early this morning i was called that a close friend and a brother of mine had gone to rest.

Henry Chibueze Onwughalu from Adazi Nnukwu Aniocha Lga Anambra state popularly known as Igwe Nanhai,Igwe mee ka odi nma,Igwe talk n do,Igwe Ogadagidi,Igwe Ekwueme,Igwe gwogwo,Igwe apia ekoo,Igwe nkpomkpo,Igwe onye si ka ofu,Igwe Gburugburu spoke with me a day b4 he was admitted in a hospital in Guangzhou China and all Nigerians especially ndi Igbo began to run around to save this our brother,the corporation of Ndi Igbo in china towards Igwe was so amazing both financially etc but finally Igwe's journey was brought to an end this morning.

Your Palace is currently in finishing stage but u couldn't see nor enter it alive.
U are one of the igbo youths who elders/everyone love so much and always back u up whenever u celebrate ur OFALA in China(PICTURES SPEAK)

U cried so much for ur Onowu Chinenye Michael Udeze Obidi from Umudioka who died last month at the age of 36 & we in Nigeria represented you at his Wake keeping here in Ago Lagos last week not knowing that you will be in Mortuary same time with him(UWA BU AHIA)

Your picture as usual have been trending all over since morning maka oke osisi adago.
IGWE WE SHALL ALL MISS YOU FOREVER.
THE ENTIRE NDI IGBO IN CHINA WILL NEVER FORGET THIS DAY MAKA NNUKWU IHE MERE.
IGWE, UR SLANGS- EGWU ADUGO & KEDU IFE OBODO N'EKWU IS ALL OVER NOW.
IGWE AGAM ASI GI JEE IJE GI NKE OMA.

Says    

CHUKWUJAMA KANAYO (ARANAZUNWA OJOTO)

SEX IS FOOD!!!!

Sex is not all about making children. You must be a different woman to your husband every time. Seduce your husband, don't always allow your husband to ask for Sex, there must be no timetable for sex. Be creative, don't be predictable. Give him what he wants. If you loose influence over your husband, you have lost womanhood. Be part of your husband plans.

Don't have too many children, you wanna sell them ? Allow your husband to check in and out anytime.
When a man is sexually satisfied, he is emotionally stable. Stop saying, is it food ? Yes, sex is food !!!

As a wife, try to invest in yourself spiritually so you can adequately support him. Build yourself as his prayer warrior so that you will not be forced to pray at the end of your life. Don't allow your husband to provide all your needs, he is not a money making machine. Iron sharpens iron, try to reciprocate.

You are meant to support each other spiritually, financially, physically and morally through thick and thin. You are a builder....Wise woman buildeth her home. Women need wisdom to build their homes. Do not be too outspoken, know when to talk, when to listen and when to be quiet.

Love your husband with all your heart, never tell him, if not because of my children, remember you've known him before the arrival of those children.

Pamper your husband, put his head on your chest and pray for him. Give him unannounced kiss from the back.... mwahhhhhh, don't be too holy to kiss in the public. He is your husband for God sake. Be romantic joooo, it is good for the heart. Some people are not happy that you're happy in that marriage, proof them wrong that you love him and he is your crown, always feel good when you hold him. Don't look 50 while you're still under 40, it drives men crazy. Always keep fit regardless of your age or body.

To men:
Do not take a woman who does all these for granted!
Pamper her, pray for her, cherish her, love her, support her financially, make her feel like your woman! God bless you and your marriages..